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The other day Diego experienced another small bullying incident. Nothing huge, but it still breaks my heart. I did all the right things, Diego did all the right things and life kept going. What amazes me is that every time Diego goes through a difficult experience, he becomes stronger. I think that growing and becoming stronger has a lot to do with overcoming difficulties.
In this song Al Green asks: How Can You Mend a Broken Heart? I believe that love is the answer. Love is the answer to everything. The kid that misbehaved has his own issues. I recognize that his heart is also broken, even though it is for a different set of reasons. Instead of showing him negativism, I did the opposite. He was confused because he expected me to be mad. For a second he looked at me with his amazing beautiful eyes and I saw not a bully but someone who’s desperately in need of love.
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I believe that what generates most of the bad things on this planet is the lack of love. This post is to share my pain with you, but also my joy, the joy of having amazing children that have a strong sense of self because they are loved and understood.
If your heart is broken for any reason at this time, please know that I care and that I send you a big tight hug. Sometimes the sky seems so dark, but behind the cloudy horizon there is always the sun, ready to come out and shine 🙂
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How Can You Mend a Broken Heart?
by Al Green.
I can think of younger days when living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do
I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow
And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend a this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again
I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
And misty memories of days gone by
We could never see tomorrow, no one said a word about the sorrow
And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again
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Dear dear Elsita,
How often the world at large forgets that true strength lays, not in reaction, but in response. Your response to your son’s situation was considered and came from your higher self, and therefore was transformative, creative and healing. Reacting, in one’s pain and fear, inclines us toward repeating if not escalating these kind of situations. Diego continues to amaze me for his immense inner wisdom, and I know you are very proud of him. The 2 of you make a great team, and have dealt with the boy with compassion which can only be good and right. I give you a big tight hug back my dear.
Lorraine
Dear Lorraine, thanks a lot for your words 🙂
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Our heart is a muscle, and our muscles grow when we exercise them. Jesus commanded us to love God and to love our neighbour, and He illustrated loving our neighbour in the story of the good samaritan. I find it very inspirational that you chose to treat a bully in a positive manner and I hope I would do the same. I trust that Diego will have a good day today and that Natalie did well on her test; hopefully she won’t have to wait too long to learn whether or not she is accepted into the program. Thanks for the hug, and I return it with an extra squeeze!
Nancy, I agree with what you said: “our heart is a muscle”. It’s true that our heart grows stronger when we exercise its powers.
Natalie did great on the test. Now we have to way for about 10 weeks for the results. The main interest that we have for her to get into the program, is that it gives her points for getting into a good art school in the future.
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por dios !! eres un AMOR de ser humano y mujer!!!!
qué belleza de alma!! te aseguro con una madre como tú,puedes estar tranquila que Diego crecerá fuerte y lleno de amor!!!
Yo pienso igual que tú al respecto de esto.Son niños que también viven sus dificultades y expresan su ira o tristeza de esa manera.
Eres un gran ejemplo querida Elsita!!!
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Mil gracias Ishtar for tus palabras! Un abrazo! 🙂
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Stay strong Diego and forgive the less fortunate. You are so blessed with caring parents.
Hi Janet, Diego is stronger and stronger as he keeps growing and finding his own voice in life 🙂
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Today I was feeling sad and thought – hmmmm – i think I’ll see what Elsa has to say. I’ll bet she will help me. (I have to go looking for your blog because for some reason it doesn’t go into my feed.)
As usual you have given inspiration and “a way” to aspire to.
You’re a great oracle. 🙂
Thanks, Cynthia 🙂
I’m glad that you came today. Here is another hug for you! ((((((((((((Cynthia)))))))))))))
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Such a heartfelt post, I never read the lyrics of that song before. Bullying is far too common I often see the beginnings of it even at the preschool stage with my children’s programs. A type personalities need gentle guidance to not become bullies I see parents that are already afraid of that personality at 3 and 4!
You handled it with great compassion 🙂
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Inspiradora y bella, me encantaría poder enviarte una carta con algunas cositas bonitas :-)) mariposabuscafelicidad@hotmail.com
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this about Diego. But you are right that compassion is the best way to confront bullies and violence. I love the T.E.D. talk by Scillia Elworthy where she talks about fighting with non-violence: http://www.ted.com/talks/scilla_elworthy_fighting_with_non_violence.html?quote=1836 And Al Green is the man!
Elsita,
Thanks for that hug – I needed it! I didn’t have a lot of love when I was growing up – my parents just didn’t know how to give it, so I understand what you are talking about. Your children are so lucky to have such loving parents!
Elsa,
My love to you and Diego. I follow your blog devotedly and find it an oasis of beauty and hope.
Several weeks ago you posted about participating in Stanford Venture Labs “A Crash Course in Creativity”. I was inspired and signed on a week into the course. I joined a team of parents and our chewing gum project evolved into a campaign to use gum as an anti-bullying campaign to get the attention of children. It was amazing to find an idea and promote it through a team. In a very short time Katie Couric and Roseanne Barr had retweeted the anti-bullying campaign to hundreds of thousands of people. But what amazes me as I check in with your blog this morning is how connected it all is. You, to me, to other parents, back home again. Maybe the power of the idea and will help you and Diego.
The campaign is a simple message to all: “Words Stick, Be Kind”. See the Twitter campaign @wordsstick and pass it on.