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Posted by on Aug 2, 2011 in Blog, News | 28 comments

My Friend’s Passing.

My Friend’s Passing.

  Debra and I drawing small

Debra and I spending some peaceful time together.

Sometimes we go through difficult experiences that have a tremendous impact in our lives. But difficult experiences are also opportunities for learning and growing.  That’s the way I feel after spending the last time with my beloved friend Debra over the weekend.


Hand drawing small

Being by Debra’s side in the last period of her life was sad, but also a blessing, an amazing lesson and a gift. It was something deep that reached my soul in a way that I haven’t experienced before. Looking at death from so close helps you become more human and humble.


Young Debra small

This photograph of my friend captures her beauty. Debra was beautiful inside and out. She gave so much to so many of us.  Many lives were touched by her generosity, her love and her intelligence.  My heart is full of gratitude. Debra was a Lawyer with a natural need to defend the less fortunate. She had a bright career full of accomplishments.


Crysalis 1 small

Our last minutes together were magic, infused with love, good energy and even smiles. Above you see a papercut that I made specially for my friend. The piece represents a woman falling slowly. As I told her, we’re all like leaves that one day will fall from the tree to be part of the Earth again. Debra loved the piece. The transformation of her body reminded me of the delicate and fragile dry leaf that has already fell from the tree. There is beauty in it, even when it’s painful. There is beauty in the way nature prepares us for the end.  Debra and I talked about that openly between tears and smiles.

Debra and I will always be connected. I know that I will see her in the wind, in the birds from my garden, in the smile of my children, in the clouds when I look at the sky, in my studio when I’m creating. I told her that our good-bye wasn’t really a good bye but a “hasta luego” as we say in Spanish. We will see each other not in the physical world which is always limited but in the infinite world of the spirit.

Here is a good bye song for Debra, I know that this would have  make her smile. See you later my friend. Rest in peace.


  1. Hello Elsa..
    I am sorry for your loss, and very moved by your post. She was very lucky to have had such a good friend and to have had you with her at the end. Tis hardest for us left behind. But, you will have your memories.
    All the best..

  2. Que fuerza, de las dos, que bueno que se hayan encontrado en el camino, así pasa con las hermanas de la vida, siempre es un regalo haberse encontrado,
    un abrazo.

  3. Bless you, Elsita, for standing by someone’s side through a beautiful and sometimes most difficult time. much love.

  4. i feel the death transition in a very similar way. I have also experienced that as people get closer and closer to death after an illness, like cancer the eyes become wider and brighter and really do become the window to the soul.

  5. I thought a lot about you Margie and the many times that you have experienced this with so many people.

  6. Beautiful and honest writing..aren’t these moments so precious..a short time when suddenly you see and feel what is important,true and real..

  7. I love your blog, your art and your spirit:) Hugs, as you go through this period of parting, temporarily.

  8. Una lagrima corre por mis mejillas…just one…pero quema.

  9. Hi Elsita, Really sorry to hear about your lovely friend. Thinking of you and sending you a big hug. xx Veronika

  10. Un fuerte abrazo, Elsita.

  11. Thank you for embracing the happy side of the process of leaving, you are truly a gracious, kind and loving friend.
    Bless you for giving us the “Good Bye Song” — muppets, the moon and a friendly bear all rolled into one great song. Right up there next to “Dance Your Cares Away” (fraggle rock theme).
    Great Big Hug.

  12. Thank you for sharing this hard time in such a beautiful way Elsita, big hugs, xxx

  13. You can see the beauty of her soul in the photograph. Sorry you lost your friend, but as you say, you will see her again I’m sure of it.

  14. I have been inspired by your art and blog. Your post about your friend was deeply touching and eloquent.

  15. How wonderful that you and Deborah met and became hermanas. You are both incredibly blessed to have been part of each other’s lives. And you always continue to be linked forever and that is an amazing gift that you have given to each other. Big abrazos and love sending my way to both of you…..<3

  16. This is sad, I got teary eye while reading your story. Yes you are right! You will see each other soon.. not in this physical world. It’s a good thing you have time with her to spend before she go.

  17. such a song of love…
    so deep, blossoming in every cell.
    i trust the music and words of your shared story will ring out forever, blessing all those near and far.
    as i have been deeply blessed to feel your tenderness and the infinite power of true friends.

  18. Que guapa tu amiga! La obra que le dedicas es preciosa y llena de espiritualidad. Son momentos duros pero serenos. Un abrazo

  19. Thank you for the beauty and hope you carry with you and share with us. I feel blessed to come here and feel the kindred spirit among your readers through you. Blessing to you.

  20. What a lovely post Elsa, I like your creations, I like your blog and without knowing you, I see what kind of person you are through this particular blog. You are open to life and all its experiences! Have a great weekend. Kind regards from Argentina.

  21. So sorry for your loss. You are fortunate to have had such a wonderful friend. Blessings on you both.

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  24. Oh, Elsita. This is such a beautiful homage to your friend’s passing. I am so moved by the simple line drawing at the top of the post, it says so much about those last precious moments. And the papercut as well is just spot on.

    I have been dealing with a lot of illness with my friends and relations. It’s nice to see other artists take on the topic.
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